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littleprincessfawn · 8 months ago

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Biggggg post about my kiddo and his troubles with school

Okay my kiddo is home today (school refusal) 😭

(Oh I wanna say a little about it, apparently. )

My kid has been struggling with school refusal, being unable to get in to school or having panic attacks when there, for a few years now. It's getting to the point I'm close to pulling him out to homeschool him. School refusal is very misunderstood. I used to have days as a kid where I didn't want to go to school and chucked a sickie. But with school refusal it's way more than not wanting to go to school, it's like a huge dread, like anxiety or panic attacks I think maybe, and it's very complex.

Here's a link to a great doco about it which mirrors my experiences:

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Later in the week I'll be going in to have a chat with the school and see what help they can offer, apparently they do have things they can do e.g. counseling/psychology sessions? The old inclusion support teacher has moved on to another school and the new one is actually really proactive and communicating with me and my kids dad and trying to help find a solution, for which I am VERY grateful because yes I will homeschool if needed but gosh it would be better for my child in SO many ways if we could make school work for him! Let's at least try something before throwing in the towel, and the old inclusion teacher seemed to just kinda... shrug and then the other teachers said I needed to be more positive and made out everything was my fault like no, my child is curled up a ball on the floor whimpering and repeating 'I hate school, I hate this, I hate everything, I can't, I can't do this anymore, I can't do this anymore,' that's not a me thing, that's an autistic and struggling kid thing.

I loved school as a kid (it was my refuge from an abusive childhood) despite being bullied as a kid, so it hurts that the school staff sometimes are trying to treat me like an enemy rather than work together as a team for the good of my kid. This new inclusion teacher seems great so I'm holding hope out. My kids classroom teacher this year is also amazing, but obviously my child needs extra help that currently he's just not getting. She's a great teacher though, she mentioned to me her main goal is improving his confidence which I was thinking YES this is the way. She gets it.

My kid is incredibly bright, is autistic, is extremely gifted in mathematics, has an IQ of 146, struggles a LOT with spelling and low confidence and perfectionism. He just needs to be extended in maths/engineering/science areas (which he does himself via YouTube but I'd ideally like to get a tutor in) and needs to be supported with his spelling to get over the issues he's having so he can communicate and participate in the classroom! He knows I love him, and he loves feeling 'safe' and staying home with me is his comfort zone. He's an only child (that wasn't how I planned it 😭 but it's how it wound up) and he doesn't socialize much with other kids, they like him but he's aloof, not in a mean way just in an autistic 'I don't really wanna socialise the way the other kids want to' way. I need to get him hooked up with more autistic peers. He's got a couple of school buddies with ADHD and as always the ADHD + Autism friendship trope proves true (me being ADHD and having MANY autistic buddies). His kindergarten teacher used to fondly call him her 'little engineer'.

He's the absolute light of my life and my favourite human in the galaxy. He and I have this amazing bond, we giggle together, 'thick as thieves', are creative together, give hugs often, and just straight up love each other. So please don't read this post and think I'm saying my autistic kid is a burden. He's not at all a burden he's my ultimate blessing and he is my reason I don't give up and keep fighting my own battles, and fight his too when needed. One time he said 'You're my samurai, Mummy,' and that's awesome and that's what motherhood is.

I'm gonna fight for him to have a school environment he can learn in, and do everything I can to get him the help he deserves. If after that school still doesn't work, I will home school him, but I want to try for school to work for him first, it'd be so great if we could. And on the days he's home with me I will help him with his spelling, his confidence, let him to follow his special interests and make his complex puzzles and maths problems. He's my everything.

#school refusal #autistic child #adhd mum #neurodivergent family #school can't #gifted kids #mum blog #single mum #mumblr #momblr #mom blog #Youtube #autism

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nariarts · 5 months ago

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Spent a ridiculous amount of time last night obsessively editing my hand written zines in Photoshop to take away any tiny blemishes so they were definitely readable.

Whatever. Understand or don't.

#I can't always read hyper-neat cursive. Doctors get away with being worse than me.#I'm allowed to be messy #nariart #1 sheet zine #mini zine #8 page zine #zines #zine #Taking time to write slowly enough to be understood was a special kind of torture in school.#My brain was going 100 km/h and I couldn't keep up and also be legible.#Now I can take my time and take breaks. But I still have that little voice in my head.#narizine #nariwrites

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marypsue · 1 year ago

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Keep seeing that post where OP starts like 'Thinking about...grieving the undead' and then adds on about like. Real life situations where people have not died but have left your life and you would have reason to grieve them.

All respect, that's an important concept, but that is not what I am thinking about when I read 'grieving the undead'.

#your brother is a vampire. he's sitting across the table from you chatting with your mother about her day #and he's dead and he's gone and he's never coming back.#he laughs the same and he talks the same but his arm is cold when he grabs you in a headlock and your dog won't be in the same room with hi #he'll still hang around watching TV with you and give you wedgies and make stupid jokes #but you can't tell him about the bullies at school anymore because this thing with your brother's face will just find them and kill them.#and not even stupid fucking Jason deserves what the monster in your dead brother's skin would do to him.#your brother is dead and lost and right there in arm's reach and gone forever with no hope of ever getting him back.#i'm sure there are corollaries to be written about like ghosts and zombies but this is the one i'm personally hung up on recently

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ionomycin · 11 months ago

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Maiden of Light

#artists on tumblr #i'm so ready to be over winter #spring and warm weather can't come soon enough #my mood is directly linked to the temperature #so i'm trying to cope by channeling my nordic roots #lucia maiden is a cool bit of culture that i always liked as a kid #the whole school would be standing along the long hallway #in the dark #holding candles #while the one chosen as lucia would walk through it with a wreath and candles on her head and we all sing the Sankta Lucia song #i'm not religious but #the VIBES #were immaculate

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pearlore · 2 months ago

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@eydilily 's gempearl designs r so gorgeous i had to draw........ also a swap?? ft. some nzsl bc i was briefly possessed by the spirit of. hands.

#gempearl #shiny duo #ooooohhhh idk how to tag. what's the etiquette?? kinda don't wanna do the main tag for ship stuff?? aughhhh #disclaimer the sl might be a bit iffy. i haven't learnt any since high school but the online dictionary is pretty good so i'm HOPING :)#ik the sign for ''if'' is slightly off; the thumb should touch the chin. anyway :)#the idea of creaking gem who can't speak PLUS warden pearl who's sensitive to noise.... SIGN LANGUAGE IT'S PERFECTTTT. tho i mayyy have ove #looked how pearl is reading the sign (is she blind??) WHOOPS. it's probably fine 😬#my art #also hello eydilily if you see this i hope it's okay for me to draw these designs!! they are just SO GOOD i was SPELLBOUND when i saw themm #the texture and colours of the original..... OUGH. STUNNING.#mcyt

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theabigailthorn · 5 months ago

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"Good" Acting

i have a theory that a lot of people say acting is "good" when they're emotionally moved by it, and a lot of cishet white people have a lifelong habit of not listening or empathising when minoritised people speak, so minority actors get called "bad" even when they display some pretty fucking amazing technical skill

#also a lot of female actors don't get recognised despite being fucking GOOD #that's not to say minority actors can't always be bad #of course we can #I'm just saying #sometimes #for SOME shows in particular #ahem ahem #some actors might get very heavily criticised for reasons that have very little to do with their actual technical skill #and more to do with the politics of those criticising them #also I'm not talking about me here #before anyone says that #I'm talking about some actors I know who have recently been criticised in my opinion quite unfairly #despite doing something very difficult #like oooohhh i dunno #playing two roles in the same show?#and doing it very well #displaying some amazing technical mastery of body and voice technique #but hey what do I know #oh wait I went to drama school and I'm a professional actor lol I DO know #I'm just a woman so I have to couch my expertise in cutesy self-deprecation lest people think I'm a bitch

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lowpolyanimals · 1 year ago

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Sheep from Old School RuneScape / RuneScape 2

#sheep #old school runescape #runescape 2 #brought to my attention by the other post #i can't believe Jagex did this to us!!#screaming crying throwing up colours of the Welsh flag rn #fav

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wardingshout · 5 months ago

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apple season

#my art #tloz #a link to the past #someone close to my school has a rly big apple tree they invite ppl to come in and pick from and I'm already making grabby hands #link #zelda #I was trying to work on my consistency in terms of designs and stuff way back when but like I can't see those csp files rn so rip #they get to have new outfits that's just whatever I thought was fun to draw at the moment thumbs up emoji #I have not actually read the manga but I am taking the orchard I want it too #with a couple way big trees it's what happens when ur out travelling I guess idk idk I'm a cringe city person #Blabbering in tags is So back

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vykerr · 4 months ago

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I was watching a video on youtube from an Australian current affairs documentary type program, when I was suddenly blindsided by this screen.

#spn #destiel #this kid can't manage mainstream schooling because it's too stressful and honestly felt #so they gets to go to a special program for learning where apparently they get to work on a powerpoint presentation about destiel #honestly i love that for them

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katsigian · 7 days ago

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Why are fandom discord servers some of the most stress inducing places in the world like why is it when you post anything into any chat it feels like either a) you're purposely being ignored or b) you've pissed someone off just by speaking. And it's such a pain in the dick because if you want any sort of help with anything or want to be even a little bit apart of a community you have to be in these servers. While the whole time it feels like that one meme picture of all the girls sneering at the camera because you dared show your face in there

#update: extremely unfortunate that this post broke containment #it was never intended to get this popular and was nothing more than a rant post. yet here we are 🙃#near unbearable and near impossible to find a fandom server that doesn't feel like being in high school #especially one fandom but if i say which i just know people will throw a tantrum because they can't handle seeing a negative opinion #and this isn't about mutuals or friends who'll see this it's about the hell that is fandom servers with more than 40 people in them #misc: salted #misc: personal #block those tags if you don't want to see this kind of post #greatest hits

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littleprincessfawn · 10 months ago

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Well, looks like I'm home-schooling my child.

This isn't an abrupt decision it's the result of a gradual eroding away of my child's ability to function within the school system. Of me considering all the options and working with the school as best as I can. Of reading about how teachers in the Australian education system are burning out at lighting rates, leaving the profession in droves, and choosing to home-educate their own children.

My child can't do school anymore. He just can't. He tried so hard. He's brilliant and not being challenged in maths. He's struggling and not being given help in spelling. Going to school isn't what's best for him and it hasn't been for a few years now.

This is going to be hard. I literally have leukemia.

But it's going to be worth it. It's going to be good for him. I can finally stretch him as far as he can go with his maths skills. I can finally help him 'get' spelling. Because he's been going to school, there hasn't been enough time for me to teach him at home.

The main downside is the lack of social opportunities. So for that I'll find groups, after school activities, coding clubs, chess clubs, for him to join and socialize with. I'll get better myself so I can organize playdates for him.

When your kid explains school using the metaphor of Loki's torture with the water dripping on his head for eternity (that he picked up on YouTube, and which I believe was actually venom, and I told him everything I remembered about that myth, so hey, we're learning more things already) I feel that's a decent indication that the schooling system is not working for them.

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damianito · 3 months ago

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The holy trinity (close up ↴ )

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thund3randrain · 10 months ago

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"I respect you and won't stop you from being who you are" and "I'm not ready to call you by a new name and pronouns because it hurts me" can not co-exist when the speaker is your parent who has a huge amount of control over your life.